Fear is often driven by lack of information. We are often afraid of what we do not know. There are solutions to this fear, that are natural and easy.
An example of this fear is when you have bills to pay and you are on a very tight budget, your situation although it is common and manageable, if you get information about a new bill or something unexpected happens that could make your budget even tighter, you have increased fear. Fear of lack, fear of disgrace, fear of loss of control, all these fears are real and effects you emotionally and physically. Ever get that pit of your stomach dread? You worry about how to solve the problem, how to be resourceful, how to get help. But still the fearful dread feeling will not go away.
Formulating questions and positive options will start to help clear the fearful dread feelings. You are focusing on the solution not the problem, which is a very good thing.
Fear of what we might find out. We always run the worst case scenario in our minds. Some people think that if the worst does not happen then they are ahead of the game. However, thinking negative thoughts only brings you negativity. You could be defeating the purpose of your efforts. Think about this example: your doctor orders routine lab blood work for your yearly physical. Now you think the worst regarding the blood work results. You fear the outcome, do you have a disease, will there be more tests ordered, will you have to go on prescription medications. Now you may have stressed your self because you do not have good control of your eating habits or your intake of alcohol or tobacco. Your guilt feelings are causing your fears of not knowing.
You need to understand that the not knowing or ignoring finding out will just prolong the anxiety and runs you down both physically and mentally interfering with everything, you do.
This attitude will certainly not going to alter the truth, good or bad. Now the hard part is getting the courage to face the truth and face the fear. The more you do it the easier it gets, trust me. It is always better to know. There is never a right time or place to find out these truths, the only advice I can give in this regard is to open your mind to all the options and alternatives available to you.
Taking the time and effort to do the research and find the facts you need, will be worth the effort and the peace of mind. Finding the underlying cause of what is bothering you or setting limits on your information will allow you to create your solutions so you can deal with things and move on with your life.
An easy way to gather the information you need quickly is to ask yourself questions.
Remember this fear that is driven by the lack of information is paralyzing. We tend to focus on this fear and it grows, it consumes us.
A way to handle the effects of this fear is to ask yourself, what if questions. In addition “how can I handle this” questions, and “what generates this fear” questions.
This active process of building solutions instead of problems is a natural solution to stress.